Where is the "How To..." Book for this One?
Craig's aunt passed away on Saturday. He's taking it pretty hard and I'm
still working out how to be the supportive wife.
Her death is really a mess on a ton of fronts:
1) She was young. Only 48.
2) Her illness was sudden. Around Christmastime last year, she became ill. She was diagnosed with brain cancer. While doing tests to prepare to operate, they discovered the cancer had already spread to her lungs. When they opened up her head to operate, they discovered it was much worse than they first thought. And stitched her back up. And sent her home to die...there was nothing more they could do. When we saw her two weeks ago, during Canadian Thanksgiving, she didn't look well. She'd been having back pain and couldn't stand up...cancer had likely spread throughout her entire body. Two weeks later, she's dead.
3) She was Craig's mother's only sister/sibling.
4) She and Craig's mother have been feuding for the last 3 years (since I've known his family).
5) She was everything Craig's mother is not: mainly fun and irresponsible
Because the sisters were still feuding at the time of her death, things are nasty/messy up there. And Craig's doing his best to 'manage' whatever he can.
Any ideas of what I can do to help HIM?